It is difficult to talk about things you know nothing about, and sadly, especially in a country like Nigeria, we are all left in the dark about so much vital information to live with physically and emotionally safe lives.
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Many women will experience something similar to what you describe at some point in their lives. Foul-smelling discharge is what is most likely the culprit and can be caused by a couple of different sources.
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The most probable one is the growth of bad bacteria. Streptococcus, Gardnerella, Staphylococcus are the most common. This is called bacterial vaginosis and affects 30% of women in their lifetimes, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.
Bacterial vaginosis is not necessarily sexually transmitted, good news. That is why these occurrences are typically corrected with a single dose of antibiotics. Sadly, a lot of women who wind up with a funky smell down there will just think, “this is the way I smell now”, and they won’t seek medical attention. Or, they will feel such shame at the idea of it being a possible STD that they will avoid the doctor for fear their worries will be confirmed.
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As a woman, this is something I can sympathize with but I have to stress, the vagina is a regular part of the body. Just like if you had a sore throat that lasted over a week, you’d go to the doctor, get a quick prescription for an antibiotic and be on your way. You aren’t likely to be embarrassed talking about swollen lymph-nodes or tonsils. Think of your vagina the same way.
The whole world is seeing this: Read Carefully: The Source Of Your Humongous Body Odor!
Vaginas are sensitive places. They must be treated with care by those who own them and those who love the ones who own them. The state in which a vagina is healthiest should be a concern for both sexes.
On an online, private sex-positive, sex education group a doctor asked the question “Ladies, what would you like for men to know about your vagina?” Within the responses was the desire for more men to understand the delicate balance women are trying to achieve when it comes to natural and healthy bacterial flora and pH balance.
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When it comes to communicating with your partner, it can be nerve-racking trying to be respectful and show concern, while making sure to protect yourself and esteem in the process.
Men, be more considerate because how she was raised to feel about her body can weigh on how she responds to the conversation. Here is my main advice, the truth always wins. Tell her the truth no matter what. If you tiptoe too much, she may continue to think nothing is really wrong. Speak from your heart while using your head. Say that you have read up on vaginal health or tell her you have a sex coach/doctor that you know (who says whatever you do, don’t douche!).
Either way, you do more damage to both of you if you do not speak about it.
And it goes without saying, but I will say it anyway – YOU don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do just because you feel bad or because you don’t want her to feel bad.
I suggest having empathy and compassion when you do start speaking. I also suggest avoiding the conversation when you are in the midst of passion. Do what you can to settle and diffuse. Suggest some other form of connection. There are many ways to sex that does not include a vagina.
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When the moment feels right, “I’d like to talk to you about something that I noticed”. Be prepared to experience defensiveness or confusion. Listen to what she has to say and make relationship decisions together.
If you won’t continue seeing her because of the unpleasant situation, she should know. If she is wonderful and one round of antibiotics is all you need to turn the spark into a flame, I’d rather have the conversation than not.
source: thehealthsite.com
You wouldn’t want a bad smelling vagina (or penis for that matter) getting in the way of something magical.
Think well about it, if you love your woman and want to help her smelling good doing sex - or just laying on her laps or cuddling, speak out!
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